The ‘Mismatched Buddy Movie’ Is the Male Equivalent of the Rom-com

MEL Magazine quoted SSW Professor Geoff Greif for their story "The ‘Mismatched Buddy Movie’ Is the Male Equivalent of the Rom-com," They’re a guide to navigating the complex world of male friendship.

Male friendships are a complicated business (even at the movie theater). “Men have been socialized to compete with each other from a very early age,” argues Geoffrey Greif, a professor of social work at the University of Maryland and the author of Buddy System: Understanding Male Friendships.

Plus, most of our early intimate relationships, he continues, are with women — e.g., our mothers or elementary school teachers. In adulthood, this results in “men not feeling comfortable feeling vulnerable, and seeking out friendship requires a level of vulnerability.”

Greif also says that men may be used to experiencing rejection from women (even if they don’t necessarily handle it well), but dealing with rejection from a guy is much harder, meaning they often don’t seek out new friends for fear of rejection, or even just appearing needy.


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